Stress Management
With all the hype about stress I decided to talk about the stress in wedding planning today.
There may never be another time in your life as exciting and exhilarating as the months leading up to your wedding. It can also be one of the most stressful times you experience because there are so many details to think about. You have to decide when the big day will be, who will stand up in the wedding, what dresses should be worn, what kind of flowers, what is the best location, pre-nuptial jitters which every couple feels…the list is endless.
Although it is easy to say “relax” it is not always easy to do. Now more than ever you need to use common sense to keep the anxiety under control and not spend to much effort worrying. Here are a few tips to make it easier:
Share the Load
You are not the only person responsible for planning the wedding. Talk with your fiance about specific tasks that he feels comfortable handling, and turn them over to him. Relatives and friends are usually more than willing to help if you tell them what you need. In casual conservations the wedding planning comes up. When they say if there is anything I can do to help that is your clue to gladly say “I appreciate your offer. Would you be able to…for me?” Don’t feel you need to do everything yourself. Delegate, delegate, delegate!
Rely on Open Communication
Remember your fiance is going to be your life partner. As you go through the planning process, tell him how you feel. When you are upset and stressed out, talk to your fiance, family members and friends so tension doesn’t overwhelm you. Everyone understands this is an emotional time and you will be surprised how supportive people will be when the little things get to you. Talk it out, let it out. The more you supress your feelings the bigger the explosion when let loose. Have you heard the term bridezilla? Don’t go there. Everyone involved in the wedding will thank you for keeping your cool. No one wants to deal with someone who can’t calmly express their frustrations. By expressing yourself, you let others know the situation and often times they can see a solution that puts you back on track.
Pamper Yourself
Don’t forget to take time for yourself in the midst of all your planning. Get enough rest, eat well and get some exercise to keep in top physical and mental shape. If you need to talk to friends, can you do that while walking? If you need a break from all the decision making and planning walk alone. Air the brain. You’ll be surprised how much easier things fall into place.
Make a Plan
At first glance, planning a wedding seems like a million details. But just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, a wedding doesn’t come together immediately. Make an initial list of everything that needs to be done and break each task down into organized steps. Set dates for each task to be accomplished and determine who should complete that task. Having a “master plan” to follow will lighten the load considerably and keep you on a steady planning course.
Be Realistic
Every bride has the highest expectations for her wedding day. You are no different. You may have dreamed about the “perfect wedding” since you were a little girl. Just don’t get so caught up in the dream that you miss out on the fun of wedding planning. Keep everything in perspective and don’t sweat the small stuff. Let those around you do the sweating! That is why they asked to help.
Pace Yourself
Planning should be done over time. In the beginning it’s tempting to try to do everything at once, but stick to your schedule and spread the job out so you don’t overdo it. If you are unsure about a planning timeline stop back in for my next post. Until then express yourself!
I’d love to hear your comments.
Uncategorized | Vicki Hasemann | September 18, 2009
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Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Expert
Darryl has the position of most guys, no stress. Why do we have to push ourselves with weddings that take 12 months to plan? Now that women work they simply don’t have the luxury of time they once did and it was rare until 20 years ago to spend 12+ months to plan for a wedding – even for royalty. I don’t think Charles and Di’s wedding took 12 months to plan and that was watched worldwide!
Building Super Star Talent, Kate
Kate you are so right about the guys and with the way the world is today most all women are working. If guys were smart they would get involved. This would keep their “wife to be” a happy camper and I don’t know any guy who doesn’t like to have a happy “wife to be”. Thanks for stopping by
Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com
Good thinking! Nobody wants stress detracting from all the work that has gone into making you look good.
Keri Eagan
Anything Alternative
My wife and her family took care of pretty much all of the wedding plans. So, I experienced very little stress.
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace
I admitted it I messed up. I did not help much during our wedding planning.
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
It’s a matter of personality and what we as individuals place importance on. I am fascinated by the bride that gets completely stressed out about the wedding. I always enjoy a good episode of Bridezilla.
I agree with Lisa where the stress comes from everybody putting in their two cents about what shouldn’t or should be done.
I just remember that when my day started I said to myself, whatever happens happens. At some point it’s out of your control so have fun and laugh at whatever goes wrong cause something will.
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The most stress I had planning my wedding was when other people tried to plan it for me.
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies
Yes that can be frustrating. Some people butt in because they wished it was their wedding and others think they know what is better for you. Thanks for stopping by Lisa.
This is why you either elope (my favorite) or hire a wedding planner. For my last wedding we simply went simple.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert
I basically did what Rob did, I was happy to support my wife with anything she wanted.
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I’ve been through my own experience…PLANNING is essential to the whole process.
This will lessen your stress.
Terry
http://www.terrytom.com
Well rounded info.
Rob’s comment I found really practical.
Martin’s comment quite humorus:-)
Mister P
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
Ah yes. I remember it well!!
On the one hand, getting family involved in the planning is a good idea. On the other hand…!
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When I got married 24 years ago, I was glad to let my wife handle all of these details… we had a small wedding but it was great.
I think that finding the right balance between formal/high cost and casual/lower cost is the toughest to figure out.
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
Study shows that wedding is a stressful event. In fact, it’s as stressful as divorce itself!
John Ho
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